All these answers can be answered by few traits/qualities, that I am reading in a book 'The Laws of the Spirit World'. I am trying to work on them, dedicating 3 days for each, defining them according to my way. Hope it will improve me and make a better human being.
So, Let set go...
- Revenge- Don't hurt anyone physically, mentally, emotionally, morally and most importantly, Spiritually. Do to others what you expect from them. Just to add more depth, 'Khudh kabhi narootho, but sabhi ruthe huo ko manao'...Yeah, one more thing one can add 'Neki kar, Dariya mein Dal'.
- Pride-In positive terms, it is Self-Respect. In negative way, it is Ego. The more vibes of energy will overcome the quality in you. More positive energy means more 'Self-Respect', the more negative energy will turn it into 'Ego'. As simple as this...
- Physical and Mental Pain (to self and others)- Giving unnecessary pain to self and others is moral crime. Don't abuse your body and mind by indulging in wrong activities to large extent. On some Occasions must be fine but not regularly. Go with common sense what's right or wrong. Having too much food, drink, no exercise, improper sleep habits are all forms of Physical and Mental pain for self....
- Self Pity- In simple words, 'Excuses'. Yes, they are just simple reasons, we keep telling ourselves when we fail and really when there is fear to failure. Don't pity yourself, even if there are more chance sto fail. Losing is not end of the world. See people like Steve Jobs, Einstein, Amitabh Bachchan and your idols, they tried and fail. Tried Again, fail again. No worries. Keep trying wholeheartedly and enjoy the journey, more than the destination...
- Selfishness- Wisemen said-"The only person in this world, who can really think best for you is YOU only." No one else can be the best judge for you. One can have many well-wishers like parents, siblings, relatives but not best judges. This is called self-caring. Selfishness is just cross this limit. Think only of yourself. Uncared attitude for your well-wishers, your company, your colleagues or your Countrymen. Be little happy for others also for their success, little sad for their failure, encourage them, laugh with them. Bottomline- "Do to others, what you want them to do to you. "
- Showing Off (boast,brag etc)- When one shows off? Either to impress others or to hide his shortcomings or to show his superiority over others. Strange but true. We run from our own weaknesses, instead of improving it. Rich person or knowledgeable person many times show off in public meetings/discussions. What to do in such situations - Haso (Laugh). Showing off sometimes could be ignored but everytime if one start doing it, people will surely start ignoring him....
- Swindling/ deceiving:- (Cheat someone, fraud) This one is easy to tackle. B'coz I don't know any person in this world, who gets up in the morning with thoughts of cheating anyone. And, I am sure, you may also don't know any such person. Anyways, we have to just keep a check on ourselves, so that in daily routine life, we don't get overflowed in wrong emotions and become dishonest...
